Anonymous said: Is there anywhere to go for marriage advice that doesn't really suck? I'm having some issues with my marriage and really don't want to be told the obvious (we were really too young) and also don't want any of the traditional crap I see on way too many marriage help websites about how all problems are related to the wife not giving enough attention and talking how men need different things, etc. I am a feminist, even though I wasn't when I married. I want GOOD advice that isn't gendered. Help?

Good question. We actually started this site as a place for people to ask advice about weddings and marriage from a feminist perspective, but no one really asked any advice so we kind of dropped that aspect. I don’t know of any good advice sites specifically, but I do know that A Practical Wedding writes a lot about marriage and also has an “Ask APW” section. I also write a lot about feminist marriage on Small Strokes. While it’s not advice, exactly, sometimes it’s good to read about other people’s marriages and see that they’re experiencing the same things as you and how they handle it.

I hope that helps!

-Ashley

weddingequality:

Couples line up outside of the City Clerk’s office in New York City on the first day of marriage equality in New York. 

weddingequality:

Couples line up outside of the City Clerk’s office in New York City on the first day of marriage equality in New York. 

dandanny:

“Blending of the Sands”
The “Blending of the Sands” ceremony can be a beautiful and meaningful alternative to the ” Unity Candle” ceremony. Like a Unity candle the pouring of two different colored sands together is used to symbolize the joining of the bride and groom.

We almost did this, but then I decided I didn’t want to get sand all over by mistake because my nervous hands would be shaking.
-Ashley

dandanny:

“Blending of the Sands”

The “Blending of the Sands” ceremony can be a beautiful and meaningful alternative to the ” Unity Candle” ceremony. Like a Unity candle the pouring of two different colored sands together is used to symbolize the joining of the bride and groom.

We almost did this, but then I decided I didn’t want to get sand all over by mistake because my nervous hands would be shaking.

-Ashley

(via toast-and-tea)

weddingequality:

Lisette and Ashley, March 26, 2011
Sea Bright, New Jersey

What a cute picture!

weddingequality:

Lisette and Ashley, March 26, 2011

Sea Bright, New Jersey

What a cute picture!

bridalsnob:

brideofthemods: Cute DIY Lollipop Favors for a wedding :)

bridalsnob:

brideofthemods: Cute DIY Lollipop Favors for a wedding :)

bridalsnob:

Sometimes boots and dresses work perfectly together :)

bridalsnob:

Sometimes boots and dresses work perfectly together :)

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Today, I’m over at Small Strokes, musing about the name change debate which, sadly, I’ve had to do quite a bit of.

I’d love to hear your thoughts about changing or not changing your name after you’ve gotten married!

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Emilia and Megan, 2010
Chicago, Illinois

Chicago! Yea!

weddingequality:

Emilia and Megan, 2010

Chicago, Illinois

Chicago! Yea!