Anonymous said: Is there anywhere to go for marriage advice that doesn't really suck? I'm having some issues with my marriage and really don't want to be told the obvious (we were really too young) and also don't want any of the traditional crap I see on way too many marriage help websites about how all problems are related to the wife not giving enough attention and talking how men need different things, etc. I am a feminist, even though I wasn't when I married. I want GOOD advice that isn't gendered. Help?
Good question. We actually started this site as a place for people to ask advice about weddings and marriage from a feminist perspective, but no one really asked any advice so we kind of dropped that aspect. I don’t know of any good advice sites specifically, but I do know that A Practical Wedding writes a lot about marriage and also has an “Ask APW” section. I also write a lot about feminist marriage on Small Strokes. While it’s not advice, exactly, sometimes it’s good to read about other people’s marriages and see that they’re experiencing the same things as you and how they handle it.
I hope that helps!